Happy 2017! As one year ends and another begins, many of us take the opportunity to pause, reflect, and begin again.
Each year we find ourselves making a list of resolutions. I’m going to lose ten pounds! Exercise 5 times a week! I’m going to save more money! I’m not going to lose patience with my kids! Then suddenly we find ourselves three months later, sitting on the couch, watching TV and eating bonbons, and our children are driving us nuts.
If this sounds like you, you’re not alone. Some research suggests that only about 9% of people actually achieve their New Year’s resolutions*! This year I decided I’m going to take a more tender approach. Instead of setting resolutions, I’m going to send myself well-wishes. How I can be more kind to myself in 2017? How do I want to be? How do I want to feel? I’m not going to write a few resolutions this year. Instead, I’m going to send myself MANY well-wishes.
May I give my children and my husband a smile or a hug each morning.
May I say no without guilt.
May I spend more time with friends.
May I not believe everything I think.
May I speak kindly to myself.
May I listen more and talk less.
May I speak authentically.
May I play with my children more.
May I show gratitude to my husband.
May I appreciate my good fortune.
May I have more patience at homework time (deep breaths).
May I see the best in others regardless of their behavior.
May I have more wisdom in difficulty.
May I be aware of my privilege.
May I engage in social justice.
May I want less.
May I put my phone down more.
May I consume more experiences and less materials.
May I rest when I need to.
May I not believe everything I think in the middle of the night!
May I curse less when I step on Legos.
May I see my house as lived in and loved in and not as a complete mess.
May I drink more water.
May I take more walks.
May I read more books.
May I tell those that I love that I love them.
May I help others in need.
May I slow down more.
May I multi-task less.
May I be a human being more often and a human doing less.
May I eat to be healthy and not to change my appearance.
May I make more time for me.
May I notice more moments of joy.
May I give more and take less.
May I know that when I’m sad, I’m just sad. I’m not a sad person.
May I see difficult emotions as THE emotion not as MY emotion.
May I ruminate less and be in the present more.
May I worry less about the future and be more in the now.
May I respond more and react less.
May I be safe and protected from inner and outer harm.
May I be happy and peaceful.
May I live my life with ease.
May I accept myself just the way I am, right now.
What do you wish for yourself in 2017? Take a moment to reflect on what might make your 2017 a healthier, a happier, and a more balanced year. May your 2017 be filled with life’s joys and its sorrows and may you be resilient through it all.
* “NEW YEARS RESOLUTION STATISTICS – Statistic Brain.” 2017 Statistic Brain Research Institute, publishing as Statistic Brain. January 1, 2017. http://www.statisticbrain.com/new-years-resolution-statistics/